Play dating love games
They tease us with clever poems, roses, daily texts and calls, only to turn around in the blink of an eye and completely disappear or disappoint us. Their behavior can be confusing, frustrating and maddening.Looking back, I’ve noticed that I’ve written about a dozen or more blogs to shed light on how many men approach dating and mating. Men fear being overwhelmed and taken over in an all-consuming relationship.For your convenience, these can now be found in the Dating Advice for Women Series How could he disappear so quickly after he came on so strong? Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. The dating games men play are both unconscious and conscious games which create a maddening push-pull with your heart. The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away. The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship.It’s not just women, either; despite the lamentations of rejected, earnest and lonely men.When I say ‘dating as a game’, I mean that potential mates aren’t beautiful, great people, humans worthy of love and affection, worthy of honesty and vulnerability, of our best.
It’s time for us lowly (opposite gender) to start fighting back, protecting ourselves, and getting ours every once in a while! But before I help you understand dating games men play I want to make sure you take advantage of my free ongoing support: You can learn EXACTLY how to tell the DUDs from the STUDs, how to go from casual to a real commitment and much much more by subscribing to my Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter! In this blog, I will take you behind the scenes and share those intimacies with you.Understanding dating patterns of the dating games men play can liberate us from these self-blaming thoughts.Instead we can more easily say – and understand – that, We can view relationships in a more balanced way, examining more objectively who did what to whom.
And then of course, there’s the ‘but (insert gender here) always wins!