No luck with dating websites
This may not seem like a problem to some women, but for me it is.
When I am dating, I like to really take my time and get to know someone before I put any “name” on what we’re doing.
Are these men just so desperate that they don’t understand the fundamentals of dating? I’m sure all the women who are waiting by the phone for their dates to call are feeling particularly bad for you. It wouldn’t be too unreasonable for you to get excited about him being the future father of your children.
I kid, Leah, because it’s about as ironic as any dating situation can be. Of course, if he’s already a father of two, and also recently divorced, he might not be ready to dive back into a committed relationship. That’s simply two good people who may be compatible, but are not a good fit at the time.
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.
You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.
It’s just having fun with someone, getting to know him, and see where things go.
(I believe it’s called dating.) There were a few men in the past several months that I liked.
Class act that she was, she took it in stride, and we remained friends for years after dating.
Maybe you never get excited and let down your guard. It would be a shame if a man distanced himself from you precisely BECAUSE you said you liked him. You keep finding guys who are ready to take the plunge, you dazzle them on a date or two, and you listen to them start gabbing about rings and honeymoons. When someone makes himself too accessible, too willing to jump into a relationship, we question him. At the end of the night, she said to me, “I’m glad to have you in my life”.
That has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. We wonder how anyone could like us this much this soon. But when we’re crazy about someone and show it, we want that person to reciprocate. We’d had fun, but after three hours, I wasn’t yet “in her life”. I told her that I thought she was great, but that she might want to hold back on the big proclamations until we get to know each other better.
To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse.
By the time of this interview, she had already given up and moved on, finally discovering her future husband while visiting old friends at her alma mater. Ryan (RD): What year did you sign up with an online dating website and how long did you keep your account? RD: What were the majority of messages that you received from guys like? I got some commenting on my picture telling me how “hot” I was…how “good” I looked.