Dating someone divorced child
Remember, ladies, there are three sides to every story: His side, her side, and what really happened. However, they also come with, I’ll say it again, a little extra baggage. They’re not going to be the party boy you might be used to, and they’re not always likely to put up with women who need to know their every waking moment. Speaking of going easy on him, you also need to move slowly in this relationship.Don’t judge their relationship; it isn’t yours and therefore, it really isn’t any of your business. If you’re dating a man who has been divorced, chances are he’s had his heart ripped out by someone he held dear.Many people, men and women, assume that when someone is divorced they made a lousy spouse. Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean he’s a bad man.As a double divorcee, I can tell you that yes, there were times I made a lousy spouse, but there were times I was the perfect wife! My mother always says, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure,” or, more delicately, just because he wasn’t right for one woman, doesn’t mean he isn’t perfect for you!You wouldn’t want him judging you based on your ex-boyfriend, would you? That usually means he’s not going to be in any rush to have it happen again.If you’re looking for the kind of man who’s going to say “I love you” at first sight, you’re dating the wrong guy.
It makes you want to squeeze them and go all doe-eyed, doesn’t it? Most of the time, it’s pent up hostility at their parents’ divorce.
You’re not going to talk badly about his ex because you don’t want your relationship with him to be based on how much you both hate her!
So, aside from being the “bigger man” in the situation, and in spite of any feelings your guy might have towards his ex, you have to be cool so she isn’t interfering with your relationship (and yes, even unknowingly being talked about behind her back is a form of inadvertently interfering in your relationship).
Don’t be afraid to tell this woman your relationship is none of her business and to tell her to mind what she says.
Playing nice isn’t always easy, and sometimes it isn’t the right thing to do, either.
There may come a point when you have to stand your ground.